She's definitely learned a thing or two from dear old dad.
At least this confirms to us that Michael was not an easy to fool puppet, unable to judge characters.
Paris also says she (much like her father) is very wary of people trying to use. She told O, "If I feel someone is being fake to me, I will just push away."
"Around 13:20 Paris says "Why can't you just believe?" in a clip from what looks like an improvisation acting session."
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" She's definitely learned a thing or two from dear old dad.
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Oprah “What’s being in private school like for you versus homeschool?”
Paris: “It’s more normal. More fun. The social life has gotten better. There’s drama…(she grimaces) but…I try to stay from that.
O: I don’t know what kind of drama happens in the 8th grade now.
P: Girls (looks away as if it’s bad)
O: Girls.
P: Mmm…yep
O: Girls. Has anyone tried to bully you?
P: People have tried but it doesn’t always work.
O: People have tried to bully you?
P: Yeah
O: Really? How so?
P: Well at school. And some people try to cyber-bully me. They try to get to me with words, but…that doesn’t really work
O: That doesn’t really work for you.
P: No…
O: I would think…well this is a surprise to me. I would think everybody wanted to be your friend. I would think everyone wanted to …
P: A lot of people don’t like me.
O: Okay so why do a lot of people not like you. I can’t imagine
P: I don’t know. (lightly)
O: Well tell me what you think it is? I know your smart. I can tell.
P: I don’t know what it is.
O: You think there jealous?
P: Maybe, I don’t know.
O: Do you sense people trying to use you?
P: If I feel someone’s being fake to me, I will just push away, cause there are kids at my school that talk SO bad behind my back. And they don’t think I can hear them. A lot of times I can hear them, a lot of times my friends tell me what they say. I’m like (shrugs shoulders) Okay… Cool…
O: So, are you allowed to date yet?
P: No. (emphatically, grins)
O: Not allowed to date. Yeah. Are you allowed to date in groups?
P: Yes.
O: Like, could you, could you actually go to a mall with your friends?
P: Yeah
O: But security would have to be there.
P: Yeah
O: How do your other friends feel about that.
P: They think it’s kind of creepy. But some of them don’t really care.
O: Do you remember when you were little little…
(discussion about wearing masks blab la bla)
I was a victim of bullying as well :-\
I was a victim of bullying as well :-\
I guess that many girls if not all have suffered talks behind the back and mocking for whatever reason during school and high school times (also university and working life). For Paris is also part of growing up within "normality". She is very famous, so not being liked is expected in to the equation. Her daddy was loved and then hated by the same who loved him. Michael was mocked big time. The bigger the star the biggest the target!
However, no matter what they say. Paris is beautiful, intelligent and sweet and she is...the daughter of Michael<---get out of the way haters (http://forums.themustangsource.com/images/smilies/kick12.gif)
I guess that many girls if not all have suffered talks behind the back and mocking for whatever reason during school and high school times (also university and working life).
Bullies on Bullying: Why We Do ItBullies on Bullying: Why We Do It | LiveScience (http://www.livescience.com/11163-bullies-bullying.html)
Rachael RettnerDate: 26 August 2010 Time: 04:03 AM ET
Bullies tend to choose unpopular kids so they can keep their status while not losing the affection of the in-group, a new study finds.
Kids can be cruel, for many reasons and most often on a fleeting basis. But bullies are tenacious in their brutal acts, and scientists have not had much luck figuring out why. A new study sought answers in a way no other study has, by asking bullies why they do it.
Bullies with the most hostility reported picking on kids because those kids were not good at sports. The most frequent bullying involved picking on students they perceived to be gay or lesbian, a result that agrees with another recent study on bullying.
While much more needs to be learned, the researchers now speculate that the beliefs and ideals of a particular community or society may influence bullying behavior.
The research seems to indicate bullying is about "social attitudes manifesting themselves in a very basic way within the school environment," said study researcher Ian Rivers of Brunel University in the United Kingdom. "So if the school really upholds sports, kids who are not good at sport are going to be victimized because they are not living up to the expectations of others."
Although the research was conducted in the U.K., the results likely apply to children in the United States as well, since issues of sporting and sexual orientation are common to both countries, Rivers said.
The study involved 666 students (ages 12 to 16) from 14 schools who had recently reported bullying others. The researchers compared the bullies with a group of 478 students who had not recently engaged in bullying.
Participants completed a questionnaire on bullying behavior, including a question on why they bullied others, followed by a list of options. Other surveys assessed students' mental health, substance abuse issues and demographic information.
Bullies were more likely than non-bullies to live in families without two biological parents, such as living in single parent families, living with extended family members or with foster parents. Such situations may mean bullies, in some cases, do not receive as much attention at home, the scientists said.
The study also found bullies were at high risk for alcohol and substance abuse. Fifty-nine percent of bullies said they had been offered alcohol in the last seven days compared with just 28.5 percent of non-bullies.
Bullies were also at higher risk for mental health problems, including depression, anxiety and hostility.
High hostility was associated with picking on students because they weren't good at schoolwork, they had certain possessions, or they were perceived as being gay or lesbian.
Some of these issues may tie in to societal views as well. Society places a lot of value on possessions and "therefore envy can become a motivator," Rivers said.
Communities might also be split on the issue of homosexuality, a topic some schools still have not properly address, Rivers said.
How bullies see themselves
Bullies tended to hold a negative view of themselves, suggesting they pick on others to feel better about themselves, and they may especially single out those who have trouble fitting in for other reasons.
"While [bullies] may well be very sensitive about any differences or any failings that they have, they may also be setting themselves up so that they victimize those who have failings that are more challenged in society, that are perhaps perceived to be more problematic, such as being gay, such as being poor at sports, such as not being good at school work," Rivers told LiveScience.
Rivers is also examining surveys from victims and witnesses of bullying, which he hopes will provide a bigger picture of the behavior.
"This is something that is really important for teachers and administrators to know: What are the hot spots, what are the issues that we need to address in terms of making schools safe," he said. "If the issue is that kids are being bullied because they're poor at sports, then maybe we take the school emphasis away from sports."
The study was presented in a poster session on Aug. 13 at the 118th Annual Convention of the American Psychological Association in San Diego.
Why Do Bullies Bully? The Top 5 Reasons Why People Bully OthersBullying Reasons: Why Do People Bully? Why Do Bullies Bully? (http://urbandojo.com/2010/06/16/bullying-reasons-why-do-people-bully-others-why-do-bullies-bully/)
June 16, 2010 • 18 Comments
By Sensei Serge Sognonvi and Carmen Sognonvi
Much of the conventional wisdom you’ve heard about the causes of bullying is wrong.
One of the common myths, for example, is that bullies victimize others because they’re loners who suffer from low self-esteem.
In reality, researchers have found that kids who bully others often have average or even above-average levels of self-esteem. Bullies often have good leadership skills, have an easy time making friends, and therefore have large friendship networks
In fact, the Health Resources and Services Administration reports that “children and youth who bully usually have at least a small group of friends who support or encourage their bullying.”
If bullying can’t be explained by low self-esteem, then why do people bully others? This article will take a look at some of the motivations that drive bullying behaviors so that we can attempt to answer the million-dollar question: Why do bullies bully?
1. Bullies have a strong need to be in control and exert their dominance over others
Children who bully others are often driven by the desire for power. They can be impulsive, hot-headed, and dominant, and they enjoy being able to subdue others.
“When children are involved in bullying as the aggressors,” explains Debra Pepler, Distinguished Research Professor of Psychology at York University, “they are experiencing regular lessons in how effective it can be to use their power aggressively to control and distress others.”
2. Bullies are rewarded for their bullying behaviors
It may seem counter-intuitive, but the fact is that children often receive positive reinforcement when they bully others, which only makes them continue their behavior.
The rewards could be material, such as when a bully forces his victim to give up lunch money. But the rewards could also be less tangible. Bullies often enjoy status and prestige because others fear them. They also command a lot of attention for their behavior.
One recent large-scale study found that children who bullied others did so because they wanted to increase their popularity. To avoid losing social status, they deliberately selected victims who were unpopular.
3. Bullies lack empathy, and may even get pleasure out of other people’s pain
Studies shown that bullies score low on tests of empathic reactivity, and have also found that bullies can be more likely to develop anti-social personality disorder. This is a condition that causes people to ignore the rights and feelings of those around them.
One study scanned the brains of young people who had exhibited bullying behaviors in the past, while they were watching videos that showed people experiencing pain. The researchers noticed a great deal of activity in the areas of the brain devoted to reward and pleasure.
This suggests that it’s not just a lack of empathy that’s the problem. Some bullies may actually derive pleasure out of seeing other people’s pain.
4. Bullies lack the ability to self-regulate emotions
The same researchers who conducted the brain scan study made another surprising discovery: the parts of the bullies’ brains that allows them to self-regulate their emotions were inactive.
This suggests that bullies simply don’t have a way to control their anger and frustration, which may result in severe overreactions to small provocations.
5. Bullies are heavily influenced by their family backgrounds
It’s impossible to predict who will become a bully and who won’t, but researchers have found some patterns in the types of families bullies have. North Dakota State University professor Laura DeHaan sums up the findings as follows:
“Bullies tend to come from families that are characterized as having little warmth or affection. These families also report trouble sharing their feelings and usually rate themselves as feeling less close to each other. Parent of bullies also tend to use inconsistent discipline and little monitoring of where their children are throughout the day. Sometimes parents of bullies have very punitive and rigid discipline styles, with physical punishment being very common. Bullies also report less feelings of closeness to their siblings.”